Our main regrets before die
She takes care of terminal patients, and told which are five great regrets that her patients have in end of life. Ana Cláudia Arantes is a geriatric doctor graduates at USP and specialist in palliative care at Albert Einstein Israeli Hospital, São Paulo, Brazil. “Do we have to get sick to change our lives?”
1 – Not having made my life story based on my choices. I chose to do things to please others. But now it’s not the others who die, it’s me. And then I wasted time doing what others wanted;
2 – I did not show affection. I hid my feelings. I did not love when I wanted to be loving. I was embarrassed because the other person could be convinced… or because she could misunderstand. This could make me weak. Or I did not say I was happy;
3 – I wish I had stayed more with my friends, because good or bad family everyone has, but the choices of friendship are more compatible with our history, with our feelings.
4 – Not to have worked so hard, because we have the illusion that we disconnect from life while we work. And we return to live after 6:00 pm, or on vacation, or at retirement. No, life does not turn off. We are living all the time. “Ah, I want my life back”. Know that your life has never gone away, it is the one you have now.
5 – I wish I could have made myself happier. It is a summary of the first four regrets.